I turned 45 a few weeks ago and celebrated with two girlfriends in Napa.

It’s been an exciting Mental Health Awareness Month. I’m grateful to be speaking with organizations including NBC, Case Western University, Cigna, and Women in Cable Telecommunications this May.There’s one question surfacing everywhere I go: How do we stay steady, hopeful, and adaptable amid the dizzying speed of change?

Do you ever feel like you’re working hard and no one seems to notice? Or worse, the only feedback you get is what’s not working?

For a long time, I was quick to blame my sweet husband. Small things would set me off. “You didn’t get the milk? It was on the list.” Even when my frustration was justified, the pattern wasn’t serving us. He felt unseen. I felt resentful. And we would loop there for days.

Last week, I gave a client a simple piece of homework: Catch someone doing something right. Once a day. He paused. Then almost laughed.